Money is the root of all evil. She's smart as hell, but for whatever reason, she has no financial sense. That part of her brain is turned off. No matter our debt, most of which she incurred, she continued to spend away. That has led to many an argument. Her spending made us have to move into a smaller house. That didn't deter her wasting hundreds a month on the dogs and a brand new car. I vilified her and her choices noting that it has screwed over the kids and I. She told me that I'm too controlling and constantly degrading her. Instead of going to marriage consoling or anything, she instantly went straight to divorce. She shocked me with that. When we took our wedding vows, I took them seriously. Despite our problems, I love her to death, and I would live in a cardboard box with her and the boys. This freaking hurts.