Dear Diary: My Wife Has Filed For Divorce.

I ended up finding a better office space than the building my ex-wife's attorney is in. Better location, more space, and same lease rate. We move in there on Monday.

Well this f--king changed. I was talking to her eldest son on Skype for over a week after the divorce, with her permission and knowledge that I was doing so. Then all of the sudden during this last week, he no longer showed up on my contact list. So it started this email sequence last night:

I've heard that the boys are unhappy moving into a much smaller house and having to share a room. And instead of living with me, someone who jokes around with them and does things, they now live with her witchy sister. So I'm hoping that she just doesn't want them to talk to me thinking that they will complain about their current situation. I'm going to ask her in 5 or 6 months if I can contact them again. Hopefully by that time they will be more settled in and less likely to complain.

This situation sucks big time. I still find myself looking at ads for glow-bowling, batting cages, etc that I used to do with them. It's depressing as f--k.

 

I added "Dear Diary" to the thread title since I'm sure I sound like a self-involved teenaged girl. Haha.

 

Wow...that's some serious bullshirt. I'm sorry to hear that Dawk. Hopefully the boys try to reach out to you.

 

I hope so too, Ward. I'm saving her email so that if in the future the boys think that I abandoned them, I will be able to show them her words.

 

Sorry to hear that, Dawk...sucks from your end, but I can see where she's coming from with it, as misguided as it may be. Im sure she's catching a ton of shirt from them about how things suck now and used to be great (its what kids do), and she likely sees your continued contact with them as negatively affecting that part of it. Shes probably not wrong that it might be best if you both (and the kids) got a "fresh start", at least for now. Hopefully after their lives stabilize somewhat she'll let you back "in". Tough situation for all involved, no doubt about it. Best wishes.

 

Thanks, Walnuts. It would be easier to take if she said she wished I didn't try to contact them "right now". Or something to that effect to show that it's not as permanent as she made it sound.

 

Sucks big time, since I know how much you like the boys

 

I've spoken before about how my ex-wife totally changed once her father passed away in January, and she's been popping prescription pills. She became a completely different person than who I fell in love with. She became cold and only cared about the dogs. She asked me to not contact the boys.

This afternoon my ex-brother-in-law called me and said, "Hold on". My youngest ex-stepson then took the phone.

I will 100% admit that I did not want the boys to be happier without me. I forgive myself for feeling that way because it's not an emotion that I can control, and I'm sure almost everyone in my situation would feel the same way.

But once I started hearing Sebastian talk about how unhappy he is right now, my heart melted and I felt guilty. He expressed how she doesn't pay any attention to him the way that I used to.

Knowing how little attention she paid to the boys compared to the dogs, I asked him if he has been brushing his teeth at least twice a day like I used to make sure they were doing.

He said that his toothbrush was lost in the move and that he refuses to share his brothers' brushes.

HE HAS NOT BRUSHED HIS TEETH IN OVER A MONTH!!!!!!!!!!!

Holly has tons of time to bathe the dogs and update her tumblr account of them, but she doesn't even realize that one of her own flesh and blood hasn't even been brushing his teeth. I made him promise that he will ask her her to buy him a toothbrush, and that he will brush every day.

There was a lot of deep emotional stuff that he and I talked about, but I can't get beyond the fact that she doesn't even know that her youngest child hasn't brushed his teeth in such a long time.

 

That is f'ed up. If you don't mind me asking, how old is Sebastian? Do you think she just overlooked it or do you think she is just ignoring his request for a new toothbrush?

 

He just turned 13. He doesn't care at all about brushing his teeth. I was aware of that and had to stay on top of him to do so. She probably is not aware that he doesn't have a toothbrush. A mother should be on top of this shirt. She isn't. But she makes sure that her web page about the dogs is updated daily.

 

She said she has hyper anxiety. I know she takes Xanax and Zoloft, but she also was taking 3 other kinds of pills that she didn't explain what they were.

 

I'm not sure that "hyper anxiety" is an actual thing.

 

Hyper probably wasn't the actual term she used. I don't recall what it was, but it was "something" anxiety.

 

Haha...I like the sound of that!

 

my wife and me are having problems still,but i am f--ked cause i can't move anywhere.you look up ice box,and it has her f--king picture beside of it!!!

 

i believe my old lady is secretly taking them!